IMPORTANT: VACANCIES MUST BE FILLED (Guest writer)
The older women likewise, that they be reverent in behaviour, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things-- that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient (subject) to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed. (Titus 2 verses 3 – 5)
Who are the older women?
No particular age range is specified, but it can encompass women who from their 30’s to the 90’s! If you are older, or have been a believer for longer, then you have much to give to those who are younger (in age or spiritual maturity) than you. Characteristic behaviour is clearly defined: they are not frivolous or given to empty talk – they have a Biblical world view. They are not given to much wine, and are free from self-indulgencing behaviours but rather displaying self-control.
Singleness does not exclude you! You still can have many skills which can be passed on to those who are younger than you!
Sound doctrine, combined with helpful instruction in regard to home, husband, children and Christ-like behaviour are covered. Providing accountability in areas of difficulty – for example, an older woman can encourage a younger woman in her use of social media and the time this takes up in her life which could therefore be robbing her God, family, or employer of time that should be theirs and keep checking in with her about how she is managing with this. Having a listening ear, an encouraging spirit, and a willingness to nurture are all vital ingredients.
When should they teach?
Teaching can be formal instruction, or study, but for others this teaching can be as informal as weekly/regular phone calls, or visits over a meal.
How should they teach?
By modelling behaviour, by praying together, by showing/teaching house-keeping skills/shortcuts, by providing a listening ear followed by gentle instruction, and much more.
So why couldn’t Titus teach women – women teaching women matters that relate to areas of life that are uniquely female makes much more sense! The older woman no matter their marital status has life experience, combined with time spent studying the Word, which can be of great help to the younger woman to assist her in her goal of living life for God’s glory. Ultimately, the older woman should desire to support the younger woman to be a model of Christ to the world, so that God’s word is not blasphemed.
Younger women often look for help – biological mothers are often “too close” to provide objective help – with knowing how to live as a Christian in a practical sense – housekeeping, in relationships, mothering children of their own, budgeting, cooking, and much more – an older woman from her experience can be of immense value!
Helpful reading on this topic:
Becoming a Titus 2 Woman by Martha Peace – this is a thoroughly researched tool which can be used to train older women to successfully mentor younger women. As a sequel to Martha Peace’s book, The Excellent Wife, it is wonderful reading for the woman who wants to put her beliefs into action to help the body of Christ. Practical, and absolutely Biblical, this book leaves nothing out!
“Just as it would never occur to you to pass by someone in need of immediate medical
help, it should never occur to us to pass by someone in need of spiritual help.
The younger women are begging for this help. God requires it.
Every woman who is not obedient to God’s Word is shamefully dishonouring Him.”
Spiritual Mothering by Susan Hunt – Practical and Biblical, this book sets out the mandate found in the Bible for all women to take part in nurturing relationships with younger women, not for self-fulfillment but for the glory of God.
“Spiritual mothering is when a woman possessing faith and spiritual maturity enters into a nurturing relationship with a younger woman in order to encourage and equip her to live for God’s glory.”
Guest Writer: Betsy (my cousin) is a young mum of two gorgeous children which she has just started to home school. She is a busy lady as keeper of her home, a wonderful helper to her husband, but also takes care of her sister and father.
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