Tuesday, May 31, 2016

Crazy cats #1

We all need something light and amusing from time to time and I think this will do the trick!!!

I would also love to hear about your crazy cats and what they are getting up too!!

Buzzfeed.com (above and below)

Monday, May 30, 2016

Jobs via careers? What is the differences?

Jobs via careers? 

What is the differences?

Is there a differences?

When stay-at-home bloggers write about working women, they have the habit of using the phrase "career women" because of its negative connotations. 

Career women (regardless of truth) are seen as women who work very long hours, not home very much, neglect their children, have little or no involvement in their children’s education, employ other people to care for their home, don’t cook and generally are considered bad women. They are also labeled feminist because there is a belief that having a career means you are a feminist and believe the feminist "lie".

But what is the reality? 

Lets define jobs and careers . . . 

JobJob is an activity through which an individual can earn money. It is a regular activity in exchange of payment. Education or special training may or may not be required.

Career: A career is the pursuit of a lifelong ambition or the general course of progression towards lifelong goals. Usually requires special learning that includes individualized components that develop abilities beyond that which training is capable of.

The fact is that most women are not career women — they have a job that provides an income to help the family—it is really that simple. They are dedicated and hardworking women doing the best they can for their families. They are often working because their husband aren't bringing in enough income and a second income is required. Many work part-time or in casual employment. They are willing to change their jobs to better suit their families.

These women have their hearts at home but they are realists and know that helping their husbands will make a differences (God wants us to make wise decisions and that includes the financial situation at home). I think this group of women are doing a great job and should be applauded for what they do for their families. These women drop in and out of the workforce throughout their working life. They may not work when the children are small, but return to part-time employment when their children enter school. They have limited loyalty to work and have little desire to climb the corporate ladder. 

The definition of a career women is very different. Women who have careers, their work is important to them, they want to climb the corporate the ladder, develop their skills in a specialist area and they are often interested in promotion and are willing to put in the extra hours required. Many are ambitious, they are certainly well educated and earn much more than women in the lower paid occupations.

BUT LETS STOP HERE because, this is where it gets interesting — I have a degree and qualifications, I am in a specialised occupation and earn a comfortable income. I would fit the definition of having a career (similar to a teacher or nurse) — BUT, like many Christian women in my position:

* I do not allow my work to control my life
* I do not take work home with me
* My work is not my life
* I do not work excessive hours
* My work (whilst interesting and enjoyable) is not my primary responsibility
* I am willing (and have) knocked back a promotion if it means longer hours and less time with my family.

And I don't work because of some feminist "lie" or to buy a bigger house or boat.

I make a big effort to make sure that I cook from scratch meals (no microwave meals in my home) and maintain my home.  One of the reasons why things run smoothly at the home front — I selected my job with care, I choose one that didn’t expect long hours and isn’t demanding. I don’t want that sort of career as it would interrupt my home life far too much.

A woman who decided to be doctor is far more likely to have demanding hours and spend far less time at home. For women who choose this career need to think very careful about having children and trying to combine both would be very stressful.

However, in saying all of this — young women with small children should limit the hours they work, they should spend as much time with their children as possible — they are only babes once. There is plenty of time latter in life to pursue a career if you so wish. Young women have a far more important responsibility at home and this should always be their first priority.  In fact, home should be the first priority for all women and her primary sphere of influence.

If a Christian woman does work outside the home and still provide a loving, caring environment for her children and husband, then it is perfectly acceptable for her to work outside the home and it isn't anyone else's business. 

But don't have a career just because you want to be someone important outside the home. Don't find a career because you think it will be far more exciting than being at home. Work if the money is required, enjoy what you do, but ALWAYS MAKE SURE YOUR HEART IS IN THE RIGHT PLACE

Just choose wisely the job you accept, and always pray about it for deciding on the final decision, God may have other plans for you. 

Friday, May 27, 2016

Three cats aren't too many!!

Who can resist a kitten — they are adorable, cuddly and so sweet!!!

Two cats may appear to be plenty for one family, but three is purr—fect !!

After my husband gave into the idea of another cat (he wasn't keen), my son and I went to the animal welfare society (RSPCA) and looked at all the very cute kittens that so desperately needed a home (and there were many to select from) and we found one that was just perfect. 

We named her LILY.

Lily is gentle, laid-back, funny, cute, loves to play but very fond of sleeping in the sunshine and just right for our cat family. Ruby cat wasn't happy at first, but then she realised that she has a little sister who she can chase and be silly with (and boss about). They are now good pals. Charlie isn't happy, but we don't call her "grumpy cat" for nothing. As long as she doesn't find a kitten in her bed –life is ok—but don't expect to be friends ever, Charlie still doesn't like Ruby!!

Lily went to the vet the other day and I discovered that she isn't any sort of ordinary street cat—she is mostly Burmese, which explains her sweet-natural temperament. The vet and staff thought she was adorable and all wanted to give her a pat!!

Pink really is my colour!! 

My big sister is such fun and we will be best friends 

Wednesday, May 25, 2016

Stories in the news: Secret purchases

Australians spend more than $11 billion every year on guilty habits they keep to themselves. Clothes, gambling, guilt foods, adult entertainment and cigarettes came in at the top of secret purchases made, with women more than twice as likely to hide clothing purchases than men. The survey found, on average, that Australian men spent $4,596 on purchases they did not reveal to their partners, while women spent $1,476. Generation Y, aged 18-35, held the largest debt from secret spending at $2054, topping Generation X with $1173, and Baby Boomers with a mere $318. (Source)

Who buys things but doesn't tell their husband? 

Do you think your husband need to know about ALL your purchases?

Do you think your husband hides purchases from you?

USA Money Magazine survey (2012) (source)

  • 71 % of married Americans acknowledged keeping secrets about their spending from their spouses
  • 44 % said keeping secrets about money is acceptable under certain circumstances
  • 40 % admitted that they tell their spouse they spent less on purchases than they actually did (women lied mostly about clothing, shoes, and things for kids; men lied mostly about things for the car, entertainment, and sports tickets)

It seems that women and men alike hide purchases from their partners and doesn't make any differences if you are in Australia, UK or USA — we are all guilty.  Both appear to be as bad as each other, the only difference is what is being bought. Women buy clothes and shoes, whilst the men are spending on gambling, adult entertainment and alcohol. 

A survey has found that men are more likely to lie about their expenditure and hide items they have purchased from their partners - all in a desperate quest to keep their shopping habits under wraps. New research has revealed that almost double the number of British males confess to secret spending - described as actively hiding or lying about their expenditures - than women. Female respondents were more likely to downplay the price of purchases (73%) and pretend new items were old (61 per cent), compared to the male respondents who would rather hide the purchase altogether (64 per cent) and destroy receipts (59 per cent). (source)

I discussed this topic with a group of friends and all admitted to secret purchases at some point in time — however one older man said that he and his wife both have "pocket money" each fortnight and they can do what they like with it, no strings attached. They can save it, or spend it and this has stopped any secret purchases because the pocket money is for all those "guilty" purchases. 

‘You shall not steal, nor deal falsely, nor lie to one another. (Leviticus 19:11)

Healthy marriages are built on trust, communication and honesty — hiding purchases, denying that purchases occur or lying are all unhealthy and damaging to one's marriage. And it is also not how a Christian should be behaving—Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord, But those who deal truthfully are His delight (Proverbs 12:22). Lying about what you buy can lead to other lies in a marriage, must more serious lies and before you know it, the entire marriage is being built on lies and guilt. 

We need must be honest with our spouses and be open about how we spend the household finances (especially if money is tight) and if we are hiding things, it probably isn't for good reasons. Share with your husband what you have purchased and if your husband asks you to limit your purchasing or not be wasteful remember as Christian wives we are to submit to our husbands and that also includes how we spend money. 

For some women, secret purchasing is done because they are struggling with self control, being temped to buy more than they need and wanting to hide from their husbands the problem they have. It is better to discuss this with your husband as soon as possible and find a solution before it gets out of control. Satan loves people with no self-control and wants us to spend and be irresponsible. God wants the opposite .

But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. (James 1:14)

I do like the idea of the husband and wife having pocket money (which is what my husband and I do already) — money that both can spend on those guilty pleasures without feeling guilty and no justification required. It doesn't have to be much, but it allows for fun spending that we all like to do from time to time. 

What do you think?

Tuesday, May 24, 2016

Give to the winds thy fears

Give to the winds thy fears ~

Give to the winds thy fears,
Hope and be undismayed,
God hears thy sighs and counts thy tears,
God shall lift up thy head.

Through waves and clouds and storms,
He gently clears thy way;
Wait thou his time, so shall this night
Soon end in joyous day.

Still heavy is thy heart, 
Still sink thy spirits down;
Cast off the weight, let fear depart,
And every care be gone.

What though thou rulest not,
Yet heaven, and earth, and hell,
Proclaim, God sitteth on the throne,
And ruleth all things well.

Leave to his sovereign sway
To choose and to command,
So shalt thou wondering own his way,
How wise, how strong his hand!

Far, far above thy thought
His counsel shall appear,
When fully he the work that wrought,
That caused thy needless fear.

Thou seest our weakness, Lord,
Our hearts are known to thee;
O lift thou up the sinking heart,
Confirm the feeble knee.

Let us in life, in death,
Thy stedfast truth declare,
And publish with our latest breath

Thy love and guardian care.

John Wesley

Monday, May 23, 2016

Doing good works quietly

"Everyone seem to want attention today. From the never-ending crop of willing contestants on reality TV shows to the banal infinity of YouTube performers, to nearly all of us spending so much time online, privately always hoping to garner ever more “likes” and followers — attention seems to be a goal for many of us today." ~ James Franco

No one is willing to work quietly behind the scenes anymore — willing to go unnoticed — not seeking  or desiring fame or fortune. Sadly Christians (individuals and families) are no better. They aren't willing to quietly spread the work of God, instead it has turned into a circus, they want to be on TV, they drag their families on TV, they end up on the covers of fashion magazines and other Christians follow their fashions and hairdos. Bloggers to some extend are doing just that — and women flock to their sites and tell them how wonderful they are and as we all love praise, it builds egos and makes us feel good.

God wants us to do good works, these good works include serving our families and helping others. Helping others may involve taking care of a sick neighbour to helping at the local charity soup kitchen to lending a hand at church. Sadly, we all know women that put their hands up for numerous activities and whilst they do a great job, they expect lots of notice and praise for the work they do. And sometimes they like to remind others about all the good things they are doing — they become boastful and no longer wish to be one of the invisible workers in the team.  In fact, they become rather unpleasant to be around. 

And whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him. (Colossians 3:17)

No matter what we do, we should not expect praise (and that includes the work we do at home for our families), we should not seek glory and if we are noticed for the work we do, we need to use that recognition to glorify our Heavenly Father and not ourselves. We must not put on a performance to seek out more attention, to be noticed to grab the limelight. Because fame is like a drug, once you have a bit, you want more and the good intentions you started with begin to get watered down. 

Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven. (Matthew 5:16)

Whatever we do, do it quietly and well. Do not seek attention in order to be noticed. People will notice if you do good things, but when you do them quietly and with grace and humility, they will see the goodness and not someone full of pride. Set an example to your children so when they do good deeds such as helping someone—that they don't automatically expect praise and notice. And when they help around the home, don't always give them pocket money, otherwise they will associate doing something nice with a financial reward rather than simply helping because its the right thing to do. 

Nor did we seek glory from men, either from you or from others, when we might have made demands as apostles of Christ. (1 Thessalonians 2:6)

  • We need to always remember why we are doing "good works", it isn't about us, its about God. It is never about us, our good deeds are our way of promoting God and sharing His wonders with unbelievers.

  • We are never to be "boastful" about our activities and make a big song and dance to gain attention. Don't shout about your good deeds to the masses. God resists the proud, But gives grace to the humble.” (James 4:6)

  • Good deeds shouldn’t be done because you think it will get you to heaven—it won't. 

  • Do not bemoan the lack of notice when you have done something at home i.e. cleaned the house or ironed the clothes. At times it might feel as if no one noticed or cares. But the truth is, all our unnoticed works may not always be seen by our children or our husbands—but they are appreciated and your family knows you do wonderful things for them to make their lives comfortable. 

  • Be willing to reach out and help someone, even if it might be an inconveniences to you—good deeds aren't about saving the world, they are about helping one person and making a difference to their day. 

And finally, when you see other Christians doing good works, let them know—a quiet thankyou note, a bunch of flowers as a way of saying that you support and encourage their good works. Sadly Christians can be very critical of other Christians, instead of building them up and supporting their work, they tear them down and find fault in them (because you could do it far better than they can). Why not  offer to help them in their activities, help behind the scenes, give encouragement. 

”Some men’s sins are clearly evident, preceding them to judgment, but those of some men follow later. Likewise, the good works of some are clearly evident, and those that are otherwise cannot be hidden."

 (1 Timothy 5:24-25)

Friday, May 20, 2016

Art friday: Angus Clifford Racey Help

Artist: Angus Clifford Racey Help

1913 - 1970

English children's author and illustrator, designer of postcards, greeting cards, jigsaws, playing cards and wrapping paper. 

His first success as an author and artist came during World War II with stories written for her. When the war came, Anne was packed off to a less noisy part of the country, but she still insisted on her story, and so Helps wrote them down for her, drew pictures to illustrate them, and sent them to her. During that time, Racey and his wife Irene Helps lived in Shepton Mallet, Somerset, and were hosts to many young American soldiers based in the town, besides running a hairdressing salon. On one occasion a publisher happened to drop in and pick up one of Helps's handwritten, illustrated booklets. Helps was invited to London to discuss publication of future work. (source: Wikipedia)


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