Thankyou for all those comments about meals - you now have me motivated to make at least one new meal per week.  I will try one tomorrow and let you know how it goes.


Fireproof: Last week I wrote about the book "Fireproof" and I said it was quite good but not great.  I have now watched the DVD and really enjoyed it - if that is the right word.  It does make you think about your relationship and and how you behaved to your spouse - see a couple fight makes you think twice before you have one yourself.

I have bought "The Love Dare" and really enjoying - it contains many thought provoking ideas - much  of it is standard counseling however with Christian perspective which is the important part.  Last night I read the chapter on Kindness and realized at times I am not kind or behaving in a Christian way  - in particular in the heat of a disagreement.

Kindness is love in action "Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you" (Ephesians 4:32).  Be:
  1. Gentleness - you speak the truth in love, be careful how you treat your spouse, never being unnecessarily harsh
  2. Helpfulness - meet your husbands needs of the moment, listen, serve your husband without worrying about your rights
  3. Willingness - instead of being obstinate, reluctant or stubborn, you cooperate, you stay flexible.  Be accommodating and compromise.
  4. Initiative- a kind husband/wife will be the first to greet with a smile, serve first and forgive first - take the first step.
Things to think about but easily forgotten when in a grumpy mood!  Or when the honeymoon is over:(

  • Treat your mate the same way you would want to be treated
  • Be as considerate to your spouse (or even better) as you are to strangers and coworkers (this often is not the case sadly)


  1. If those are snippets from the Love Dare book, I'm really looking forward to borrowing it when you're done! It's too bad honeymoons don't last longer, and that we can treat our friends, neighbours and workmates better than we treat our spouses at times. I'm sure everyone has the same troubles from time to time. The book sounds like a good reminder of all the good things a marriage can be if we work hard at it. :)

  2. Book sounds good. Is it a book to alone or along side your partner. I think relationships need continual food if you want them to grow and then enjoy newness and more depth. I think I will look at it in Koorong and may get. Thanks for sharing. Jennifer R

  3. Hi Jennifer - I am reading The Love Dare alone at the moment and not following it as it is designed for but taking bits that I think would be useful. But it would be wonderful done as a couple - lots of fun I think.



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