Update

Thankyou for all those comments about meals - you now have me motivated to make at least one new meal per week.  I will try one tomorrow and let you know how it goes.

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Fireproof: Last week I wrote about the book "Fireproof" and I said it was quite good but not great.  I have now watched the DVD and really enjoyed it - if that is the right word.  It does make you think about your relationship and and how you behaved to your spouse - see a couple fight makes you think twice before you have one yourself.

I have bought "The Love Dare" and really enjoying - it contains many thought provoking ideas - much  of it is standard counseling however with Christian perspective which is the important part.  Last night I read the chapter on Kindness and realized at times I am not kind or behaving in a Christian way  - in particular in the heat of a disagreement.

Kindness is love in action "Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you" (Ephesians 4:32).  Be:

1. Gentleness - you speak the truth in love, be careful how you treat your spouse, never being unnecessarily harsh
2. Helpfulness - meet your husbands needs of the moment, listen, serve your husband without worrying about your rights
3. Willingness - instead of being obstinate, reluctant or stubborn, you cooperate, you stay flexible.  Be accommodating and compromise.
4. Initiative- a kind husband/wife will be the first to greet with a smile, serve first and forgive first - take the first step.

Things to think about but easily forgotten when in a grumpy mood!  Or when the honeymoon is over:(

• Treat your mate the same way you would want to be treated

• Be as considerate to your spouse (or even better) as you are to strangers and coworkers (this often is not the case sadly)