There is so much anger about these days, people die due to angry outbursts. People get angry over the most trivial things, no longer wanting to listen or understand, but ready to lash out and hurt. It often starts at a young age, just walk through a school yard. When angry, the words coming from a persons mouth can be malicious, slanderous and abusive with only one purpose - to hurt without any thought of the other persons feelings.
There are many examples given in the Bible in regards to anger. But equally, there are many verses on how to avoid anger. My favourite verse would have to be " So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath" from James 1:19. Sadly (and I fall into this trap too) we are often far too quick to open our mouths and far to slow to listen. The results can be devastating.
Thanks to "The Excellent Wife" by Martha Peace, below is two lists, biblical contrasts between the man (or woman) who stirs up anger and the man (or woman) who subdues anger.
Stirs up Anger
A harsh word stirs up anger (Prov 15:1)
A wrathful man stirs up strife (Prov 15:18)
Wrath is cruel and anger a torrent (Prov 27:4)
Make no friendship with an angry man, And with a furious man do not go (Prov 22:24)
For as the churning of milk produces butter, And wringing the nose produces blood,So the forcing of wrath produces strife. (Prov 30:33)
Anger rests in the bosom of fools. (Ecc 7:9)
The mouth of fools pours forth foolishness (Prov 15:2)
idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God. (Galatians 5:20-21)
A soft answer turns away wrath (Prov 15:1)
But he who is slow to anger allays contention (Prov 15:18)
A gift in secret pacifies anger (Prov 21:14)
But he who restrains his lips is wise. (Prov 10:19)
Blessed are the peacemakers, For they shall be called sons of God. (Matt 5:9)
He who is slow to wrath has great understanding (Prov 14:29)
The heart of the righteous studies how to answer (Prov 15:28)
As a wife, our words should be gentle and soft, compassionate, kind, humble and most of all loving instead of harsh and angry - no matter how we are spoken to. A tough one at times. But through prayer and asking God to change our hearts and our character, we can throw away the "angry wife" and become the wife that . . . ponders how to answer (Prov 15:28).
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