The other day when I wrote a story on vanity which led to a conversation about earrings and makeup and I thought I would look into this a little further. I enjoy wearing jewellery such as earrings, necklaces and bracelets and I also like to wear a light covering of makeup to work each day. Should I be doing any of this and if so, to what extent?
According to Timothy 2, verses 9 and 10 what I wear each day is important, and I do need to think careful about what I select —
“In like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing, but, which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works.”
This doesn't mean I should dress poorly, the Proverbs 31 woman certainly didn't ".... her clothing is fine linen and purple", but my outward appearance is not as important as "... a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised".
If I started to wear flashy jewellery, thick makeup and expensive clothes the message I am sending others is that my appearance is very important — I want to be notice — I want to appear attractive to others — I want people to know that I am spending big on myself — my focus is all about “me”. Dressing as the world does says I am part of this world and not behaving in a manner which is proper for a woman professing godliness. My outward clothing should never become more important than my inner beauty as said in 1 Peter 3:3-4 —
“Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God”.
What about jewellery — I need to make sure that my outward adornment does not give the wrong message — I need others to understand that my focus is on God (and having a gentle and quiet spirit) and not on expensive jewellery. Therefore wearing jewellery is fine as long as it doesn’t detract from what is important or give others the wrong impression. It all comes down to moderation. What message am I try to send — do I look like I am part of this world or do I look like a Christian woman?
As to make-up, this is where so many Christian differ and I don’t know the answer. I use a light coverage of makeup, however to be completely honest with myself I am trying to make improves on God’s handiwork. Makeup is a worldly activity, in the Bible women who wore lots of makeup were prostitutes — I rarely see women not wearing it (and sadly most young girls)— we think it makes us look better, hides the faults and wrinkles. I think, once again, it comes down to moderation — I don’t want to look cheap or trashy and it should not rule my life (vanity and pride).
My advice (to myself!) would be “never wear anything you would not want to wear in front of Jesus” — as a Christian woman I want others to know that my love for God is above “bling”.
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