Beware the gorgeous guy on TV
|Richard Geer from the movie An Officer and a Gentleman|
Often when women discuss a movie they have watched they will talk about how gorgeous (or cute) one of the characters was. I've done this, more than once, many times if I am honest. The character in most occasions is some handsome male actor. I can remember watching the Lord of the Rings Trilogy and telling others how handsome Aragon was in the films. I don't think there are many women who have not done this at some point. Most of us are flawed human beings that have minds that wander where they shouldn't.
We generally associate men with perving at women. However women "perv" too, just in a different manner. When men perv, it is out there in the open, everyone can tell, however when women do this it is perhaps more hidden eg comments made whilst watching a movie or talking to a friend at work about a male colleague. When women are perving at men it isn't quite in the same sexual vein that men do, but we still look at men and fantasize about that "gorgeous hunk" and we shouldn't be. It doesn't matter if you are a stay-at-home mum or like me and go off to work (we are all vulnerable), if our minds wander when we are watching or reading something and we start to think about how "gorgeous" someone is (who isn't our husband) then we aren't behaving in a Christian manner. Our minds are not being kept pure. Just as we don't like our husbands looking at other women, they don't like us looking at men (even if they are on TV or in a book) and fantasizing about their looks.
If unsure about what you are watching, reading or evening thinking -- remember Philippians 4:8 and tick the boxes -- is it pure, lovely, noble or good, if not, then it probably isn't any good. A good test is whether we could honestly say we could read from a novel out loud to Jesus and feel comfortable in doing so. Many of us would say no.
The only gorgeous hunk in your life should be your husband, not the actor on TV or the man in a novel (who isn't even real). If you can't watch or read these without your mind wandering, them leave them alone. And worse still, don't try and compare your husband to these made up characters - my husband likes to remind me he will never be a Mr Darcy!!
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Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy--meditate on these things.