The importances of a buddy


Great love hath no man than this,
that a man lay down his life for his friends

John 15:13

Do you have someone to talk to? 

Someone who you can vent to, share your feelings with, disappointments and joys with, ask for spiritual help and guidance with.  For Christian women it can be very isolating and lonely at times.

For me it certainly has been. I have friends, but they aren't Christian friends, therefore they don't always understand my point of view or they aren't close enough to really share some issues with.  They don't understand the concept of being a helpmate, or the importances of home and certainly  have no understanding of what life is like when living as a Christian. They cannot offer advise on many facets of Christian life. And they are unable to let me know if I am straying and need a little help.

These things are better shared with other Christian women.

Christian friendship is so important and we mustn't cut ourselves off from other Christian women - we all need someone to talk to that isn't our husbands. 

I think all Christian women need a buddy - another Christian woman who can help them through those difficult patches, offer advice or just be there when times a tough. But also to share the joys of children, being a wife or even the success of a new recipe. They don't need to live just down the road, but they do need to be in reach via text messages, email, phone or even via Facebook. 

We all need a buddy and I think it is even more important for Christian women now that ever before.  A buddy is different to a mentor/mentee relationship which is based around ministry and for Christian women, often the mentor is an older more mature woman with years of experience. This friendship is based around friendship. 

Your buddy can be a sister, a cousin, a member of church, someone you can trust and feel comfortable with. Your buddy can be younger or older or the same age, but what is important that they understand where you are coming from and have Christian maturity as you will be wanting their advice from time to time. 

This is a friendship built on honesty, trust, willingness to reach out but also built on laughter, tears, joy and sadness. This friend isn't the sort that neglects you, hurts you, doesn't talk for months, pulls you down or likely to gossip about what you share with them. They are there for you and you are there for them. 

This friendship is a two-way-street designed to blossom and last a very long time. Its the sort of friendship that you really want to to take you into old age, to give you comfortable and knowing that you and your buddy  have shared an amazing journey together. 

As C.S.Lewis said: 

True friends don't spend time gazing into each other's eyes. They may show great tenderness towards each other but they face in the same direction - towards common projects, goals - above all, towards a common Lord.



  1. This is so true... However, I've rarely had someone in my life who I can confide in face-to-face. Most of my closest friendships have been ones I've carried out either online or through some other form of written communication - and even those friendships seem to have their ebbs and flows as sometimes life is busy or overwhelming on one side of the friendship or the other and so the communication and friendship comes and goes. The thing that intrigues me the most is the way that the times when I'm in greatest need for friendship and encouragement seems to be the time when my closest friends are busy or not able to communicate or don't feel like communicating, and so I find myself realizing all over again that the LORD has to be the one I depend on and turn to for encouragement and love and friendship. :) And that's okay with me - when it all comes down to it, friends come and go, but the Lord is constant.

    1. Always here for you:))) you shouldn't ever feel alone or lonely.

      Sending smiles in your direction.

  2. Clara, I have been thinking of you.... would love to catch up... my email address is Blessings, Glenys

  3. Dear Jo, It is a valuable lesson to learn early in life the importance of Godly friendships. We really do need a buddy in this life. I was taught early on how to be a good friend! Having friends in Christ is so important as you stated these are the ones who will help you in the biblical wisdom in life. We all need them. I thank God for my friends! And it is important to ask God to hand pick them for you! I know He loves to do this!
    I do consider you as a friend. And I believe it will grow and we can support one another! If I can ever help you, email me and we will chat!
    Blessings, Roxy

    1. You are so kind and caring Roxy and I love the feeling that there are others looking out for me and you - one isn't alone when someone else is keeping an eye out for another.

  4. Thank you for your heartfelt post. I am joining you for the first time from the Modest Mondays Blog Hop. (I have to admit, your super-sweet photo caught my eye!) I'm so glad to have stopped by today. Many Blessings!
    Hilary at Wholesome Reads

    1. Hi Hilary, glad to meet you:))


  5. Dear Jo,
    I have been away for a few days...
    I hope you are doing well. I really love
    this post. True friendship with others who
    share your Christian faith is very good.
    Blessings :-)

    1. Yes I am doing well. Just had the afternoon off work and spent it with my son. We enjoyed a lovely meal together and a wander through some shops. It was a special time.

      Hope you have a lovely week ahead.

  6. I'll be your buddy :) Great post!


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