"Many people have the expectation that children are going to come to school and they are going to be taught all of the things, including something as basic as speech, manners and toilet training,’' . . . Parents are making schools responsible for toilet training their children in some cases, putting an extra burden on educators, teachers have reported. (source)
I think we are living in an age of lazy parenting
. . . apathetic parents
. . . parents who are no longer parenting.
Parents using electronic devices such as iPads and TV as baby sitting tools.
Parents who don't have the time to have proper conversations with their children.
Parents who are too "busy" to play with their children.
Parents who don't have the time for proper sit down meals that are healthy and home cooked.
Parents who take their children to the park but then spend the entire time checking their phones.
Parents who send their children to school with lunch boxes full of junk foods.
Parents who buy their children whatever they want rather than teaching them the meaning of no.
Parents who no longer teach manners or how to eat correctly.
A neuro-psychologist in the UK, Sally Goddard Blythe, researched the link between children who missed out on simple childhood activities and those who started school with learning problems. She found many toddlers were watching 4.5 hours of TV a day instead of playing, and went on to start school with poor emotional development and motor skills. (research) found that almost half of all UK five-year-olds who started school only had the motor skills of a baby, including the inability to hold a pencil. The cause, she said, was because parents had not spent enough time playing with their children or letting them play with others. (source)
Its easy to blame working parents for this . . . I am not so sure (however I do think it is playing a vital part). I think we are living in an age where many parents don't want to put the effort into training their child in the basics such as toilet training, manners or the meaning of "no" as it requires effort and far too much of their "precious" time and if you can get someone else to do it, why not? More and more parents expect the school to teach everything and then criticise the school when they struggle and fail. These activities are not the responsibility of schools, they belong to the parents. Parents have forgotten that they still have a teaching/training responsibility that has never belonged to the school.
A decline in traditions like sitting down to eat dinner together and using common courtesies such as 'excuse me' stems from lazy parenting, according to a survey of grandmothers.They also blamed bad behaviour at school on the axing of old rules which saw children sit at desks all day and stand respectfully when a teacher entered the room. They believe that good manners can only be learned by example, with many 21st century parents failing to provide the same disciplinary boundaries they had. (source)
These grandmothers are right and its such a tragedy. We are raising a generation of children who will have no self control, do not understand the meaning of no, expect everyone to do everything for them, unable to think on their own, lazy (no longer required to help around the home), disrespectful and rude to their elders etc..
It is more than a worry. However there are some parents doing the right thing and that is wonderful. I work with a lovely young man who is polite, kind, generous, well dressed and well spoken. He is a pleasure to work with because of the way he was brought up. We just need many more of these young people.
However just 37 per cent of children today say 'excuse me', before interrupting someone, a disappointment to the 82 per cent of grandmothers polled who did so during their childhood. Meanwhile, the number of children writing thank-you letters has dropped dramatically, from 86 per forced to do so when grandparents were young to just 35 per cent today. (source)
Train up a child in the way he should go:
and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
Proverbs 22:6 (KJV)