I love my mother for EVERYTHING she did

A mother's love is patient and forgiving when all others are forsaking, it never fails or falters, even though the heart is breaking.

~ Helen Steiner Rice ~

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Mothers do the very best they can and what they do, they do with love.

Mothers work very hard for their children and make many sacrifices, but many children don't truly appreciate their mother's efforts until they are all grown up and become parents themselves. 

My friend Wendy had a mother who stayed at home. My mother went to work. Wendy and I have known each other all our lives and we are the same age. We are both married and have two children each.  We were both taught home making skills, how to sew, how to cook, how to care for others, neither of us were lacking in any of these important skills. 

We both love our mothers equally. I love my mother for all the things she did for me, for all the meals she cooked, the stories she read, the hugs she gave, the clothes she made, the jumpers she knitted. I also love her for all the sacrifices she made. 

Wendy loves her mother for all the same reasons. 

Our mothers are now old and in need of care, both Wendy and I continue to love our mothers equally. 

Even though my mother worked all my growing up years, I don't love her less, I don't hold any grudges because she worked, I don't have regrets, I don't get angry or cross about the decisions my parents made. 

What I have are wonderful memories of growing up, lots of family time, fun, laughter, joy (and getting into trouble when naughty!). Wendy shares similar memories.

I love my mother for EVERYTHING she did.

This is SO important - your children love you whether you are at home 24/7, work full or part-time or have caring responsibilities that take you out of the home. 

Your children will love you their entire lives as long as you LOVE them endlessly and demonstrate that love daily and know that you are on call 24/7.

 Do not demonise working women assuming they are all working for selfish career driven reasons and neglecting their children.  Whilst some mothers do work for all the wrong reasons (most often worldly mothers), most Christian mothers do not. Wendy and I may have had mothers who had different responsibilities, but we both love our mothers equally and so proud of what they taught us and how they have loved us. 

Thanks mum for EVERYTHING you did - I know that the decisions you made were based FIRMLY in faith and not out of selfishness. And looking back, I wouldn't have wanted anything different. You gave me a beautiful childhood that I treasure and cherish.


Her children rise up and call her blessed; 
Her husband also, and he praises her.

(Proverbs 31: 28)

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    1. Thankyou - may your week be blessed :)

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  2. I agree with you. I am thankful for all that.my mother did for me. I have wonderful memories! God knew what He was doing when He gave us mothers. Thank you for this precious post.

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    1. That is so true - if you let God decide your path, no matter what it is it will work out ok. Have a wonderful day :)

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  3. Mothers are very precious. And I think often they are not fully appreciated until they are gone... sadly. There is nothing like a mother's love and care. They have their problems and their faults (like all of us!), but God created mothers to be extremely special. :)

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    1. No mother is perfect and I think we as mothers would all do something differently if we could. But you are so right, it isn't until we are all grown up and when either our mothers have gone or much older do we full appreciate the sacrifices they made. They are one of a kind and no one can replace them.

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  4. Your mother and you are very blessed to have each other. I am thankful to have lived long enough to get over some of the hurts, and be able to see all the good my mom tried to do. It has been such a blessing to see and appreciate that.

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    1. My parents weren't perfect, but I know what they did, they did with faith and what they believed to be the best. We wanted for nothing and very much loved and never once felt neglected or as if we were placed second. I didn't like all the strict rules, but most children don't at some point. It isn't until one become a mother themselves do they full appreciate how difficult the role really is!

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  5. " I don't get angry or cross about the decisions my parents made"

    Yes, this.

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  6. This is a great message! Our little town is pretty much split down the middle with working Moms and stay at home Moms. I've heard little in terms of criticism against one another. But 3 years ago, when I lived in a much larger city, the distance between the 2 groups was big. Their opinions were big too and most often negative. It is nice, and maybe uncommon, to live in a place where that judgment isn't constantly on the table.

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    1. One should never judge another, we don't know their story and the division of working and non-working mothers is more than annoying. Of course there are mothers who work for a career and don't think of their families, but most don't and they take great care of the homes, husbands and children.

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  7. Ah, the love of mothers! I can't get enough even at my age :) My mother also worked outside the home but she did give us 100%! And I pray to give her my best as she ages and we are able. This is our turn to take care of them and I feel blessed that my husband feels the same way.

    Thanks for sharing this week at the Art of Home-Making Mondays! :)

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    1. Likewise, it is so important to look after our ageing parents (in the same way we will want to be cared for when we are old). Sadly my parents live a long way from me and I can't see them very often (usually once a year), but I can help in other ways such as regular phone calls, letters and I often order things on line for them if they need books or clothing purchased. Its the little things that count.

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  8. Thanks for sharing this great post about your mothers.I think the big thing is about judging others and putting ourselves in a position where we know best for everyone. My mum didn't do paid work but she did a lot of voluntary work and I felt she never really did much for us school wise. This is ok, I'm not angry or anything, it was just the way it was. Thanks for sharing this at Good Morning Mondays. Blessings

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    1. My mother was a teacher so teaching and learning were very important to her (she also grew up surrounded by learning) so teaching us at home (beyond what we learnt at school) was important to her.

      I agree, we should never judge others based on our own experiences. We can not stand their shoes and understand their perspective. All mothers have their regrets, I certainly have mine as a mother, and perhaps your mother does too. My mother has spoken about her regrets. We are all only human and make mistakes, even those who try very hard not to!!

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