Why some women dislike the tag "Lady"
You would be hard press to find a modern woman who wants to be called a lady.
As I mentioned in a blog post from a few weeks ago (LINK), being a lady is seen as weak and submissive in modern society and not strong and determine as woman want to be seen today.
Last week I came across an article called "I dislike the tag lady" from a website called "Women's Agenda".
When in business, I dislike the tag "lady" and people ask me why. Let me explain why I think it is inappropriate. When I think of the term "lady" I see someone dressed in a modest and feminine way, being demure and generally taking a second position. A lady is in my eyes is less likely to be the project leader, soccer player, truck driver, surgeon or barrister. Now stop for a minute, close your eyes, and reflect on the vision that you have of a "lady". Can you visualise a "lady" being a business leader, driving a train, being an electrician, a brain surgeon or any one of a number of roles that are historically seen as the domain of men? Are they a "lady"? Does it really fit?
It is interested how this woman perceives the term lady and what one looks like (and I believe that most women would share her views on this):
. . . "I see someone dressed in a modest and feminine way, being demure and generally taking a second position".
And here lies the problem . . . being a lady doesn't mean weak or quiet. . . it doesn't mean she can be walked all over and be treated as a door-mat. She isn't dull or boring, she isn't old or wears old fashion clothing.
. . . it is all about knowing how to behave in different environments.
Knowing when to be quiet, knowing when to help, knowing when to dress in a certain way, knowing the importances of being kind and compassionate, knowing how to speak to others without offending, not being loud and crude. Wouldn't it be wonderful to see more women in professional positions behaving like this, rather than trying to be "one of the blokes".
“Whatever you choose, however many roads you travel, I hope that you choose not to be a lady. I hope you will find some way to break the rules and make a little trouble out there. And I also hope that you will choose to make some of that trouble on behalf of women.” – Nora Ephori
|Australian born, Princess Mary of Denmark|
And on the flip side, I would love to see more gentlemen . . . sadly, when men behave gentlemenly towards women, they are often treated poorly and strongly attacked. I always thank a man if he treats me with respect and kindness as they need to know that there are some women who love a gentleman.