Modern modest and how it varies between women.
What one woman sees as modest may not be modest for someone else. I think all three outfits below are modest. There is no plunging neck lines, the skirts are to the knee and each outfit is very feminine and pretty. However for some Christians, their definition of modesty is different and would only include outfits that are much longer or perhaps to the ankle.
This is far more suitable for some women (all from Shabby Apple) — each outfit is long, the shoulders are well covered, the necklines are high and once again, they are very feminine. I like all these outfits and they are certainly very modest to wear.
Other women prefer to wear clothes that are very traditional in style and do not follow modern trends. And there are those who love to reproduce outfits that are common from the pioneer or Victoria era. This makes women confused or uncertain about the definition of "modesty" and what it means.
Sometimes it can feel that you haven't been reading the right set of "rules" and that your rules about modesty appear to be the wrong rules. Modesty isn't about a set of rules to follow rigidly and to impose on others and since reading many blogs (and comments) on the topic, my definition of modesty is certainly not the same as some other women.
How ever you personally define modesty it is ultimately between you and God — and it is not a competition between women.
Most importantly when it comes to clothing — our clothing does not DEFINE us and nor is it the most important part of us. Instead:
* How we treat other people.
* How we spread joy and kindness in the world.
* How we behave towards those we don't particular like.
* How tolerant we are of those who are different.
* How we treat our loved ones.
These are what are important in our live and not we store in our wardrobes.
Do not let your adornment be merely outward--arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel-- rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.
1 Peter 3:3-4
We should focus less on what we wear and more on what we do. A quiet and gentle spirit is far more important to God than whether our skirts are knee, mid calf or to the ankle. The most modest woman can still miss the mark if her focus is pursuing worldly activities rather than being Christ in action. And for some women — making sure that others notice she is ALWAYS modest in her outfits and letting everyone know that she is following "the right rules" is just as bad.
Remember that there are some amazing women out there doing God's work quietly and without the need of fanfare or noise and may not be dressing to your level of modesty.
Links of interest:
* What's the issue with wearing leggings?
* Why I wear skirts and dresses
* The history of the mini-skirt
* Skin-tight clothing
* Is there anything wrong about wearing stilettos