My children are grown up. Looking after them is easy. I fill up the pantry and they eat their way through it. If they need new clothes I send them shopping. If they want to go to sleep, I kiss them goodnight and off they go - if they don't go to sleep I am not very concerned. I have free time to relax, not only for a few minutes, it could be hours. I can go out and leave them behind, alone. We can have long and meaningful conversations - on the phone - texting. Of course having older children has other issues, but they are not (generally) issues that last 24/7.
Last week I spent a few days with a young new mum and I realised how simple, relaxing and peaceful my life is compared to a new mum with a bub (or two). I had forgot the complete dependency a baby has on their mum, the fact that every job you do (while they are awake) you need to consider the baby, you can't sit and enjoy your dinner as you are very busy looking after baby's dinner (so yours goes cold), shopping requires many arms and hands and the list goes on. Your life is simply not your own in those first few years.
So to all mums with babies and young children, you are doing a great job, excellent job in fact, and on those days when it all seems too much and you feel like everything is doing backwards don't panic, in 18 years you too will lead a quiet, peaceful life!! But don't rush those years that are the toughest, they only come around once and it doesn't last very long.
I will like to introduce Sarah, the baby I had the pleasure of spending a few days with and the joy of entertaining while her mum was busy doing those tricky chores that are hard to complete with a baby - wanting your attention. Sarah was a gorgeous little bub.
My next baby will, God willing, be a grandchild - the sort I can spoil and hand back!!
But not quite yet please boys.