Creating a home
As I was doing the housework/bread making on Saturday morning I was thinking of a blog I had recently read . . . it was mulling over in my mind. I really shouldn't have taken it to heart, but sometimes these things happen. The topic was about creating a home for ones husband and family and several comments were along the following lines: that working women do "housework" and not "home-keeping" therefore they are "not creating a special home for their husbands" as they don't have the time to spend doing those finer details. And because they don't have the time to "clean thoroughly" (deep clean) it isn't quite as "good/clean". This really upset me. Very silly I know, but I don’t like these sort of comment as it tries to say (perhaps unintentionally) that some women are doing a lesser job because they aren't at home all day and if you aren’t at home all day your house suffers. I have many working women as friends and they have lovely homes that are cosy (mess free), inviting and very special places to be.
Yes, silly of me, because to be completely honest, the only person I need to be concerned about is my husband. If he is happy with our home and the way I do things then it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. I do my very best, I keep a clean and very tidy mess free home (anyone who knows me will know I am a neat freak!) and make it as special as possible . . . a haven from the world, a place to escape. I don't spend all day doing housework and I don't want to (and even if I was at home I won’t—housework is not something I can get excited about). I couldn't think of anything worse. But I think I am doing a pretty good job.
I was asked as a response to a comment I left about how often I did certain things . . . such as vacuum cleaning or wash the curtains. I don't know what the norm is for these activities—but I do them when they need to be done. I don't have a schedule (I am not a schedule sort of person) as such e.g. dusting on Monday and washing on Tuesday, but when the washing basket is full, I wash - doesn't everyone? I vacuum every night (DH doesn't like the cat hair!!) and I am so sorry but I have never wash a curtain in my life, the two sets I own must be dry-cleaned . . . they would be ruined in the machine and they are too heavy for me to iron. Does this make me a poor home makers?
In defence I do bake bread, make jam, grow my own veggies, bake cakes and other bad things, cook all my meals, do arts and craft, be a companion for my DH, provide advice to my adult sons and care for the 4 pets . . . is there anything else I should be doing — I don’t sew my own clothes. Sometimes my husband helps - he often cleans the windows (a job he enjoys doing!), he removes the spider webs (as he knows I am scared of spiders) and clean the carpets with the carpet steamer (he won't let me drive the machine!).
I am a homemaker, I love looking after my home and keeping it just the way my DH likes it. And as long has DH is happy, then all is well. It doesn’t matter if other people think differently — so I will stop dwelling on these comments and keep busy making my DH happy and content. And most importantly I will keep looking upwards to the Lord for guidances and strenght in all that I do, that I do the very best for Him and honour Him.
Tomorrow is Saturday and I plan to give me house a clean (it won’t take me long) and pop out to the shopping centre. Afterwards I will spend sometime in the garden (if it isn’t raining) and perhaps go for a walk with DH.
Paintings by Susan Rios