Supporting one's husband

My DH is currently applying for another job.  His application was sent off on Saturday.  It’s not that he wants to move from where he is, he quite liked the work he was doing.  However there are a couple of senior managers who don’t like him because of his views on particular topics (which I won’t go into). As a result of expressing his views, they have systematically targeted him—in other words bullied him for months and months. It is only a handful of managers targeting him but they are powerful enough to make his work life miserable and force him to look elsewhere.  We are waiting to see if they offer him an involuntary redundancy.  These should only be offered if a position has disappeared and they cannot find another or the person is breaking the Code Of Conduct.  My DH is doing neither.  He simply has other views on select topics that they don’t like.  We aren’t talking about rebel behaviour or anarchy here – just a  differences of opinion.

It is a very sad day when staff are not allow to express views because individual managers don’t agree with them.  Where is the democracy that allows staff to express views, even if management doesn’t agree with them.   I was once told by a senior manager that I should express my views on topics—I laughed and said, no way, it only leads to misery.  DH is aware of at least 10 other people who have been treated this way and have since moved on. It isn't an isolated problem.

I am sure this is a widespread problem across both the public and private sector and one of the reasons why we lack innovation and creativity in business (and perhaps why some of the financial messes have occurred)—because staff (at all levels) are too afraid to speak out, as this is what can happen.  But what puzzles me is the bullying that these people do to others. My DH is quite miserable at the moment thanks to other people’s behaviour.  One of the first things my son discovered when he entered the workforce was that adults are not always nice.  In fact, some are plain nasty.  We teach our children to be polite and kind, caring of others, concerning for those who they play with—however adults in the workforce are often quite the opposite.  How do you teach your adult children about to enter the workforce that adults are not quite as they imagined.  In saying this, I have be very fortunate (praise the Lord) to have not come across too many unpleasant managers, a few but not many.  Therefore my working career has been drama free to a large extent—but many many others have not been as fortunate as I have.

So, we wait and see what the outcome of this job is.  I pray for a positive outcome as this would make DH considerably happier and would be able to get away from those people who are trying desperately to undermine his career.  As his wife, this is my major prayer activity at the moment - supporting and encouraging him when things look rather bleak.


  1. Praying with you, friend. My husband has also recently changed his employment due to bullying.

  2. This happened to Liddy also because she did her job too well for others comfort. It is a sad commentary of our value system when workers are targeted for their differences.

  3. That is horrible! People are SO nasty! Half the problem is that the majority of people these days don't care about other people's happiness - only their own. It's a ME society and it doesn't matter what others think. I do hope and pray he finds a good job... I'm sure these kinds of things upset the whole family because of the bullying - it's hard to leave that kind of misery at work no matter how hard a person tries.

  4. Sorry to hear this Jo:( yes speaking up can have negative consequences but there are times when we must! will be praying for you and dh...


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