Mummy porn

If you mention porn, most people think men. This is true, most porn is watched and read by men, however there is a growing number of women who are reading pornographic novels.  In the past, many read in secret, however with the rise of the ebook, women are now turning to porn in greater numbers.  Still in secret but now they are read pornographic books without anyone knowing what they are reading.

"Sales have always been good," said Tina Haveman, founder of eXtasy books, "but the increase has happened over the last few years because of the new ebook readers that have become available." "Ebooks are cheaper than paperbacks, and easier to buy because of the convenience of the internet," she added, "and people can read them without having to hide them from prying eyes." "You could be a mom, like, sitting in the park on a playday with the moms down the block and you could be reading, like, a real kinky novel and nobody knows," agreed Brenda Knight, associate publisher of Cleis Press. Founded in 1980, Cleis Press bills itself as the largest queer publisher in the United States, and 70 per cent of its erotica sales are digital.
Porn is porn, no matter whether a man or woman is involved. However, a husband may not have any clues that his wife is reading porn because it is hidden away on her ebook reader.  She could simply say she is reading a romance novel and unless he checks he is not likely to know.  Sadly though in this modern society, most husbands probably don't care that their wives are reading sexually erotic fiction.  There are even erotic novels aimed at mums like you and me which is why the term "mummy porn" has been coined.  But it is a temptation that Christian wives need to be fully aware of and avoid.  It is so easy to download a book at any time of the day or night. We all need to be vigilant, especially when we are at our weakest moments.
"Women who gravitate towards erotic romantic fiction do so for a combination of reasons," Wendell added. "It's a positive portrayal of female sexuality, where the woman is celebrated instead of denigrated, and it explores different sexual practices within the safety and privacy of the reader's own imagination." (source)
But this a warning to parents who have teenage daughters who have access to ebook readers.  There is a growing number of pom novels on market aim at young women and as a person who read a number of unsavory romance novels (in book form) when I was growing up . . . it is much easier to hide a book on an ereader than under a bed.  Whilst you think your daughter wouldn't do such a thing, sometimes parents are very surprised to discovered that their daughter can and does do these things. 

Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.
1 Corinthians 6:18

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  1. Thank you for this timely reminder!

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  2. That is awful - I never even thought about the way those eReaders would make it so much easier for people to buy/read porn. How horrible. :( Yet another reason for us (my lil family and I) to stick to real books - keeps us more accountable and makes sinful reading more difficult... (thankfully neither Dan nor I has any interest in eBooks anyway).

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    1. Clara - I hadn't even thought about this issue until I read it in the paper yesterday and discovered that it is a growing industry with more and more books written aimed at women. It makes buying porn so easy for anyone who has assess to an ereader.

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  3. Wow, that is interesting! We are a book loving family but are partial to the hardcover ones that you can hold in your hands… I agree with the above comment by Clara, it keeps us more accountable but am saddened that Satan has found another entry through technology. We must keep guarding our homes and make sure everything in its wall are pure and noble so that our families are exposed to goodness. Thanks for sharing this. Beautiful blog too!!!

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    1. Thanks Jes, Satan is hiding everywhere and we need to be vigilant. It is such a tragedy.

      Blessings:)

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  4. You don't even have to get "porn" just pick up a romance novel! I love well-written love stories, but I stick to Christian ones because even just a regular romance novel is entirely too graphic for my taste.

    Blessings to you!

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    1. Hi Crystal - you are very right, I have read romance novels that are pretty explicit in detail but would not be classed as porn. I was a lot younger at the time and made choices that were poor to say the least! I hardly ever read romance novels these days (excluding Jane Eyre!!) as I find them shallow and predictable and I think it is better to stay away from books that don't add anything to my life.

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  5. Yes, you are so right. We are so quick to judge our husbands for viewing pornography and yet we fill our churches with, female pornography i.e. romance novels.

    Blessings,

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    1. And all the married women who walk past men and make sexual comments, is that really any different.

      Thanks for stopping by:)

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  6. Thanks for addressing this Jo. I had no idea that it had come to this, though it's not terribly surprising in this present wicked world.

    I and several of my friends and my mom and sister stopped reading romance novels some years ago. We all felt for various reasons (some of us were single, some married) that it was not an edifying use of our time and minds. Like you, I had read some romances at times that were unsavory - some of the worst actually sported themselves as "Christian". I regret that I put that in my mind. I think that indulging in such things *can* lead to a need for stronger and stronger "unsavoriness" to satisfy the flesh - thus eventually to the "mummy porn". But, even reading "just good romances" can become an insatiable appetite as it did with one of my grandmothers. We believe this constant diet over the years skewed her view of life considerably.

    On the subject of ebook readers - I don't agree with the what appears to be the general consensus here. If it would be a problem to someone then surely they should avoid them. However, my husband and I share one - we keep the wi-fi turned off, and we don't even have easy access to wi-fi where we live anyway. We are accountable to each other in this. We also have a simpler one with fewer capabilities (and no ads!).

    He uses our e-reader for technical books relating to computers. I have collected a rather nice library of wholesome books, mostly written for girls and young ladies in the late 1800s. Some of them were books that my family was previously acquainted with, others were new to me (and a joy to discover!). We don't have the budget to buy all these books in hard copy, and some are rare and difficult to come by ($$$). So, it is a blessing to be able to get this wholesome reading material for free or little. I would have to say that the content of our ebook reader is in keeping with what is on our shelves. The main thing missing is the research oriented books which we seem to mostly get in hard copy.

    By the way, I use Project Gutenberg quite a bit. I can usually read a book online - or at least partially read it - to see if it's something that I actually want. If I find a good author I can look up her (usually) other works as well, and often find more treasures. I download some from Amazon, but only things that I know about already.

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  7. Another thought - e-book readers are a real treasure for missionaries or those who travel or move a lot. One can carry a whole library of useful and pertinent books without the huge expense of shipping and trouble of packing.

    My in-laws just retired from the missionfield, and I know their e-reader was a huge help to them as a resource for books that they would have had difficulty either attaining or shipping back to the U.S.

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    1. For people who travel a lot, the ereader is excellent as it save carting around heavy books. it is also excellent for any one who reads lots of books and doesn't have the space to put "real" books. On my iPad I have access to the National LIbrary of Britian (19th Century collection) - I never going to visit it or borrow books, but via an ereader I can enjoy the content of this grand collection from Australia (which is pretty amazing!!). Used probably it is an excellent invention, sadly some women and men are using it for sinful activities such as pornography. These people will need to answer to God one day.

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  8. I totally agree on the smut that is being published more and more these days. Or maybe not published more, but certainly more in my line of visibility than in years past.

    I personally prefer a "real" book because I like the feel and smell of a good book. There is something traditional and soothing about it. Maybe it's just me. I certainly understand the advantage of carrying libraries' worth of information with you in a single reader though. So I'm definitely not anti-reader. I just don't want one. =)

    I appreciate you bringing a new point of view to light for me - I hadn't considered how having a reader could allow people (men, women, and children) to read what was once taboo more easily without being open about it because it wouldn't be obvious what they were reading. Definitely something to keep in mind!

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    1. It's not just you. I love the smell and feel or real books too. :-) I discovered sometime back that I actually have a fond attachment to the smell of old paper because of all the old books I've read, and especially those old ones that are associated with my youth. I have happy memories of spending time both in summer and winter with the antique books that were passed down to me from Gramma through my mom. :-)

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    2. P.S. I doubt I'll ever have that connection with our Kindle!! LOL It just isn't the same. :-)

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    3. Mary, my mum gave me heaps of her old books and I just love to open them and smell the paper and age. Won't it be sad when children don't know what a paper book is. I plan to pass all my books to my children so they don't forget.

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    4. Jo, I think there is a sweet connection with family history in old books too. There's something special about knowing that I have a book that my dear Gramma read when she was a young woman and that my mom read when she was a girl and young woman. I hadn't thought about it till just now, but that's a treasure that e books can never have!

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    5. I have a pile of old books that my mother read and I also read as girl. I love them very much as they have a history - they are things that can be treasured and past down through the generations, an ebook will never be able to do that. How sad that one day we won't have books to give to the next generation. What a tragedy.

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  9. Romance novels and their love scenes were a gateway for me into visual pornography. Don't allow yourself to be so tempted. Even the romance in Christian novels can be enough to spark my imagination. I read one Christian romance novel that graphically described the disrobing of the bride by the groom. Then, I read another where the heroine took a near nude moonlight swim with the man she was infatuated with (and not married to)! We must be vigilant.

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  10. Thank you for this wonderful post! I was just talking to a friend about this very thing over the book Shades of Gray. I can't believe how many of my friends are reading this sort of stuff! Anyway, thanks so much for the great post. I would love if you would share it at my Feminine Friday link-up, I know my readers will benefit from it!

    http://susangodfrey.com/biblical-response-to-feminism-part-1-feminine-friday-link-up-party/

    Blessings!
    Susan

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    1. Thanks Susan for dropping by. I have posted this story on your blog, thankyou for letting me know. I wouldn't be surprised that many women, and Christian women are reading romance and porn (there is a fine line between the two) and are doing it in secret. I had never heard of Shades of Gray until I read "Always Learning" and then googled it. I really don't understand why women think these books are ok. I use to read romance novels and realised how unChristian they were and stopped.

      Blessings

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  11. Thanks for participating in Feminine Friday for 05/25/2012! I hope you'll come back and join us this Friday!

    http://susangodfrey.com/category/faith/feminine-friday/

    Blessings!
    Susan Godfrey

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    1. Thanks Susan - I have done a link this week - very kind of you to remind me :)

      Blessings

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