I'm a better Christian than you
As a child I thought our family were very good Christians, far better than most.
Because we don't own a TV, I always wore skirts or dresses, hat on Sundays, we read the Bible daily and we sung hymns around the piano in the evening, never swore, never went to the movies, didn't drink alcohol, didn't listen to modern music and unlike all my friends I wasn't allowed to cut my hair short, wear ear-rings or go to parties. To a young child, these all "ticked the boxes" that made for a "good" Christian family.
But ticking the boxes does not make for a good Christian. These can and sometime be just appearances. It is how we behave and what is in our hearts everyday that counts.
I see this, perhaps not intentionally in Blogland. I am a stay-at-home-mum (tick), I home school (tick), I only wear skirts (tick), we don't own a TV (tick), we only read good books (tick), we read the bible daily (tick), I have lots of children with more on the way (tick) . . . and all those who do not tick all these boxes are not as Christian (godly) as those that do.
My aunt (Helen) was spinster. She was born in 1923 and died at the age of 76 in 2000. She lived with her father (my grandfather) until he past away in 1974. She was an intelligent well educated woman (who went to university when it was not popular or common for women to attend), who travel the world and was leading in her field of physiotherapy with her work with children with polio and the disabled generally. She kept a wonderful home, a great cook, owned a cat and loved to weave (and many of her nieces and nephews, including myself, stayed with her). To some, she certainly didn't tick all the boxes that make for a "good" Christian woman, in fact she might even be seen as a modern career woman. However to all those that knew her, she was one of the most Christian women I ever knew and I wish I had listened to her far more.
Everything she did, what she said, how she behaved were as a Christian woman should. Through her work as a physiotherapist, all those who knew her, knew her love for the Lord. It wasn't because she didn't have a TV that made her a good Christian, it was the life she led (following what the Lord set out for her) and how she treated others that made her the woman she was.
We need to remember this when we "tick the boxes" and look at others who don't tick the same boxes. It doesn't make for a lesser Christian at all. In fact, some of those who "tick all the boxes" (or think they do) need to be careful not to be proud, arrogant or boastful that they think they are better than others. A poor woman working hard in a factory for her children (struggling to spend enough time with them) is perhaps a far better Christian in her simple faith, than those who have chosen to remain at home. My mother would have to be another example, a Christian lady who loves the Lord so dearly but wasn't a stay-at-home mother but what a wonderful homemaker she was (balancing both with such skill).
|Three little boys who loved their aunt dearly, she may not have had children or married, but she did spoil her nieces and nephews and perhaps the grandmother none of us had. Taken in the 1960s.|
Its important not to set ourselves on pedestals and look at others who appear to be "not as Christian" in their choices and assume that they are in fact lesser Christians than you or I. If I described my aunt to you and her career, some would assume that she had been a very modern woman, perhaps of the feminist movement. No, how very wrong you would have been. My aunt was no feminist, she was caring, loving and most of all, trusted in the Lord for all things and this came through in the work she did for others. The path she took and likewise the path my mother (as a school teacher) took, are paths that the Lord choose for them. That's all we can do, follow in the paths that the Lord has asked us to follow - its called having faith.
Humble yourself in the sight of the Lord,
and He will lift you up.