The importances of a buddy
Great love hath no man than this,
that a man lay down his life for his friends
Do you have someone to talk to?
Someone who you can vent to, share your feelings with, disappointments and joys with, ask for spiritual help and guidance with. For Christian women it can be very isolating and lonely at times.
For me it certainly has been. I have friends, but they aren't Christian friends, therefore they don't always understand my point of view or they aren't close enough to really share some issues with. They don't understand the concept of being a helpmate, or the importances of home and certainly have no understanding of what life is like when living as a Christian. They cannot offer advise on many facets of Christian life. And they are unable to let me know if I am straying and need a little help.
These things are better shared with other Christian women.
Christian friendship is so important and we mustn't cut ourselves off from other Christian women - we all need someone to talk to that isn't our husbands.
I think all Christian women need a buddy - another Christian woman who can help them through those difficult patches, offer advice or just be there when times a tough. But also to share the joys of children, being a wife or even the success of a new recipe. They don't need to live just down the road, but they do need to be in reach via text messages, email, phone or even via Facebook.
We all need a buddy and I think it is even more important for Christian women now that ever before. A buddy is different to a mentor/mentee relationship which is based around ministry and for Christian women, often the mentor is an older more mature woman with years of experience. This friendship is based around friendship.
Your buddy can be a sister, a cousin, a member of church, someone you can trust and feel comfortable with. Your buddy can be younger or older or the same age, but what is important that they understand where you are coming from and have Christian maturity as you will be wanting their advice from time to time.
This is a friendship built on honesty, trust, willingness to reach out but also built on laughter, tears, joy and sadness. This friend isn't the sort that neglects you, hurts you, doesn't talk for months, pulls you down or likely to gossip about what you share with them. They are there for you and you are there for them.
This friendship is a two-way-street designed to blossom and last a very long time. Its the sort of friendship that you really want to to take you into old age, to give you comfortable and knowing that you and your buddy have shared an amazing journey together.
As C.S.Lewis said:
True friends don't spend time gazing into each other's eyes. They may show great tenderness towards each other but they face in the same direction - towards common projects, goals - above all, towards a common Lord.