The contentious wife
Contentious: causing or likely to cause an argument; controversial, (of a person) given to provoking argument.
The Book of Proverbs paints a graphic picture of a contentious wife and it isn’t pretty.
A foolish son is the ruin of his father, And the contentions of a wife are a continual dripping. (Proverbs 19:13)
A contentious wife is not a person any husband is going to enjoy living with and she is bound to make him very miserable. Can you imagine having to listen continually to a dripping tap — it would send you mad, which is why things like water-boarding are use in torture.
She is argumentative and she is always right so her poor husband never stand a chance. She argues for the sake of arguing and she uses her arguments to dominate her husband until he is worn down to a thread and she is in control of everything. I am sure you have all met men that appear to be a shell of themselves and cringe with their wives arrive. They are the sort of women that no one really wants around. You may have heard of comments like “Jim is a lovely guy, but his wife, not so nice, she walks all over him”.
Better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, Than in a house shared with a contentious woman. (Proverbs 21:9)
What does a contentious wife look like:
* She will lie and manipulate her husband
* She nags him endless because he does do what she wants fast enough
* She will use emotional abuse on her husband to stay in control
* She complains about him to others and never has a kind word
* He is always wrong and never does anything right in her eyes
* She calls him stupid and dumb if he struggles with a task and she is happy to tell her girlfriends how stupid he is
* She berates her husband in public and doesn’t really care who witnesses her behaviour.
* She belittles him in from of others
* She is like a dog with a bone, she gets stuck on a issue and doesn’t let go
* She uses sex as a weapon
* She can be loud when speaking, raising her voice to out do her husband
It truely would be better to dwell in the wilderness than being around a contentious and angry woman
Better to dwell in the wilderness. Than with a contentious and angry woman. (Proverbs 21:19)
One must wonder if King Solomon knew a few contentious women in his life by the way he describes in such beautiful language what they are like.
A continual dripping on a very rainy day, And a contentious woman are alike. (Proverbs 21:9)
Dear ladies, there is no problems asking our husbands to do something or to suggest something. But we only need to ask/tell them once and not nag endlessly. We do not want to be like rain and drip, drip and drip in our husbands ear.